Saturday, October 22, 2022

Wearing Out "Biggest T-Shirt"

 


I'm wearing out the new song

"biggest t-shirt"

by Avery Anna

written by

Avery Anna, Lori McKenna, Chris McKenna, Colin Healy

                                                                

woo hoo


It’s a song that allows you to “sit in your feelings”…

but I suppose you could also drive.

  Sometimes driving and reflecting is cool too.


As I listened to “biggest t-Shirt”…

it made me reflect on daze gone by.


anywhooo…


My roommate my freshman year of college and I were the byproduct of 

an “arranged match.”  

We  were put together by our parents. 

My parents had good friends whose relatives 

were her parents and so 

instead of rolling the random roommate dice…

we hedged our bets and went for the safest roll.  

At least she was vetted.

We didn't have the luxury of checking each other out on Facebook.

Instead, we met face-to-face on move-in day in our dorm room.  


We were a good match, 

as far as roommates go.  

We got along….

no problems…no issues.

We were friendly…

studied in the room together, 

chatted about our day and 

occasionally went to the dining hall together. 

  I had made friends with other girls on my floor and 

I assumed she did too.  

She often talked about high school and her friends and family from home.  

She started going home on weekends… 

I looked at it as time that I had the room to myself.


After class she would come back to the room and put on her bathrobe.  

I don’t always notice things…

but I I did take note that it was the afternoon and 

she was walking around in her fuzzy pink bathrobe.  

It was a cute robe…

but it was also the middle of the day.


After her freshman year she left college and 

went to a school closer to her home.  

Looking back now after decades of life…

I’m pretty sure she was extremely homesick and 

didn’t feel comfortable being at school.


Her fuzzy pink bathrobe was her 

“biggest t-shirt."

It was her refuge…

her safe space;

a place to hide from her insecurities.

I’m guessing her bathrobe gave her the 

big warm hug

that she needed.   


If I was smarter back then and 

not the clueless freshman that I was….

I would have given her a big hug. 

I could have given her that big hug.


 I wish I was smarter.


Sometimes songs make us think…

and this song did that for me

and


thanks to you 

Avery Anna 

I’m wearing out… 

"biggest t-shirt."







Monday, October 3, 2022

PaluA + Kat = 40 +1

 41 is an EXTRA special anniversary.  

You would think EXTRA special 

might involve an anniversary ending in a 0 or a 5…

but every year for us past number 40 

is BEYOND special.

40 + 1




Anywhooo…


Last year we were excited about celebrating our Big 4-0 anniversary in Asheville, NC.  

The plan was to take in the mountains, breweries, 

restaurants, Biltmore tours, foliage…

maybe even stop in Pigeon Forge on the way.  

(My idea…Love Dolly…hehe) 


Instead, 

the venue where we ended up 

celebrating our 40 years 

was very sterile,  

and 

 the food was a tad on the bland and boring side 

with a sprinkle of blah.

But 

it was a hospital 

and as hospitals go…

Vanderbilt EXCELLED

 with its wonderful docs and nurses.  

Go Vandy.


Although I wasn’t able to wear my wedding dress 

(which if you know, you know...

 is my anniversary tradition) 

and dance to our song...

at least one of us 

was wearing 

a gown.  

Sorry, PaulA


Thankfully we were able to dance to our song....

at Brianna and Christian’s wedding

3 weeks later. 


It’s a blessing to be able to grow old together …

and watch the years roll by...

waves roll by…

low tide to high tide…



flat rock appearing and disappearing. 

I am so grateful.  


Happy Anniversary to 

the curly haired boy... 

                                                                     (my semi-formal college date 😂)

I married 41 years ago.


PaulA + Kat

40 + 1